Three Days to Softness (And Why That’s Not Too Little)
This post was supposed to go up on Sunday.
It didn’t.
And honestly? That’s kind of the point.
Because if you’re anything like the women I work with (and, let’s be real, like me), Sunday doesn’t always look like candles, journaling, and a perfectly regulated nervous system.
Sometimes it looks like:
not wanting to talk
not wanting to think
not wanting to “process” one more damn thing
disappearing from your phone
doing absolutely nothing that could be monetized or optimized
So instead of pretending this was a perfectly timed post, let’s talk about what actually matters:
Three days is enough to soften.
And no — that’s not “bare minimum.” That’s biology.
Why Three Days Actually Works
We’ve been sold this idea that change has to be long, hard, and dramatic to be real.
Your nervous system disagrees.
When the body has been bracing for months (or years), what it needs first isn’t a 30-day overhaul — it’s proof of safety.
Short, contained experiences work because they tell the body:
“You’re not trapped here forever. You can stand down now.”
In three days, something important happens:
the jaw starts to release
the breath gets fuller without effort
the shoulders drop on their own
emotional reactivity softens
mental noise quiets
Not because life suddenly got easier —
but because the body stopped preparing for impact.
That’s not magic.
That’s regulation.
Softness Isn’t Laziness (It’s Strategy)
Let me say this with my whole chest:
If three days of softness feels “too easy,”
that’s not intuition — that’s conditioning.
We’ve been taught to trust exhaustion more than relief.
But your nervous system doesn’t need you to prove anything.
It needs consistency, safety, and permission.
Softening works fast because your body has been waiting.
If You Didn’t “Reset” on Sunday…
Good.
Because sometimes the most regulated thing you can do is:
skip the reflection
skip the ritual
skip the performance of self-care
and let your system recover quietly
If you rested instead of posting…
If you avoided instead of analyzing…
If you went numb instead of “doing the work”…
That wasn’t failure.
That was information.
Three Days Isn’t the End — It’s the Opening
This isn’t about fixing yourself in 72 hours.
It’s about reminding your body what it feels like to:
not grip
not brace
not anticipate
not hold everything together
Once the body remembers that, everything else becomes possible.
Clarity.
Boundaries.
Energy.
Choice.
Softness isn’t the reward at the end of healing.
It’s the entry point.
A Gentle Invitation (No Hustle Energy)
If your body has been asking for relief — not motivation — there are two places to start:
✨ The Unclenched Workshop (free)
A nervous system exhale for women who are done holding everything together.
🌿 The Pressure Release Toolkit
A 3-day container designed to help your body stand down — jaw, breath, shoulders, emotional load.
No urgency.
No fixing.
No gold stars.
Just relief.
This post may be late.
But softness doesn’t run on a schedule.
And neither does healing.
Unclench, babe. 🤍